Janette Shares Her Full Story After Being Blindsided By Bear – Plus The Surprising Text She Immediately Sent to Sunny

The Golden Bachelor Australia finale delivered one of the most emotional moments of the season when Janette Bendle discovered that Barry Bear Myrden had chosen Sunny instead of her. What unfolded later was not the ending Janette had imagined, and now she is opening up about every raw detail of the heartbreak, the moments that followed, and the unexpected way she decided to respond.

In the lead up to the finale, Janette felt genuinely certain that her connection with Bear would carry her to the end. She had expressed deep affection for him and believed that their shared experiences throughout the season had signaled a strong and lasting match. For this reason, she later admitted that she walked into the final day without preparing her heart for rejection. She envisioned a joyful future and felt confident the final rose would be hers. When Bear revealed that his heart belonged to Sunny, her world shifted instantly.

According to Janette, the moment of the breakup was surreal. She recalled looking at Bear and seeing a sadness in his eyes, as if he was also hurting while delivering the news. She felt that the man she had come to love looked genuinely torn during their final conversation on the mountaintop. Yet nothing could soften the shock that came with hearing that she was not the woman he wanted to build a future with.

Janette later described herself as feeling completely blindsided. She said she had never truly allowed the possibility of Bear choosing someone else to enter her mind. The weight of the moment hit her all at once, and although she tried to remain poised, she revealed that inside she was overwhelmed with emotion. She said she felt a sudden desire to shed the stress of the day, remove her shoes, fold away her dress, and simply run and cry until she could breathe again. Her heartbreak was intense and immediate.

Once the cameras were gone and she returned home to Melbourne, Janette admitted that she struggled with the reality of the outcome. She said that she and Bear have had no contact whatsoever since their final goodbye. She had hoped for closure or even a simple message of kindness, but nothing arrived. Still, she surprised everyone when she chose to respond with grace toward the woman who became Bear’s final choice.

In a moment that many viewers did not expect, Janette sent Sunny a text after filming wrapped. She told Sunny that she sincerely wished her well and that she could see how deeply in love Sunny was with Bear. Janette explained that it was important for her to show compassion, not bitterness, even while nursing her own heartbreak. She said she wanted to take the high road and express genuine support, believing that kindness would bring her more peace than resentment ever could.

Despite the emotional intensity of the finale, Janette says she does not view the experience as a loss. She feels she has walked away with enormous personal growth and an entire group of women who are now close friends. She said the show pushed her to embrace vulnerability in a way she had not done for many years, and that she feels stronger for having allowed herself to be fully open with someone again.

Returning to her life in Melbourne helped her regain balance. She immersed herself in her work, spent time with her family, and leaned into her passion for pilates, which became a source of stability and healing. In the weeks that followed the finale, Janette realised she was more open to dating than she expected. She said the show helped her rediscover a hopefulness she thought she had lost long ago.

Janette has also expressed interest in returning to the franchise in a new role. She said that if producers ever decided to launch a Golden Bachelorette season, she would absolutely consider taking part. The idea of having her own opportunity to find love in a setting filled with romantic possibility excites her, and fans have already voiced their support for the idea across social media.

Looking back, Janette maintains that she has no regrets. She believes she gained far more than she lost. Even though her heart was broken in the final moments, she feels proud of the way she handled herself and the kindness she extended to Sunny and Bear after the show wrapped. She said the journey reminded her that she is capable of deep love and even deeper resilience.

“I gained more than I lost. I walked away with 19 friends and a beautiful experience and I still believe in fairytales, I’ve just got to wait for mine.”

Janette’s story has resonated with many viewers because it shows how gracefully someone can move through disappointment. Her honesty, her willingness to share the darker moments, and her commitment to responding with warmth have all earned her admiration across Australia. While her relationship with Bear ended abruptly, her journey toward love is far from over. And if her open heart and unwavering optimism are any sign, her next chapter may be the most meaningful one yet.