Rachael Reveals Real Reason Matt James Dumped Her in SHOCKING Tell-All Interview

Two weeks after Matt James publicly announced their breakup, Rachael Kirkconnell breaks her silence on their split.

The Bachelor winner revealed the real reason Matt James ended their relationship in a bombshell interview on Call Her Daddy.

On Tuesday, the Bachelor alum appeared on the podcast to open up about the shocking split from her boyfriend of four years.

Rachael said they had just met up in London and had traveled to Tokyo together earlier this month when the unexpected breakup happened. She recalled that the argument started over where to go for dinner, and Matt became annoyed with her. After sitting through a tense meal, she admitted she became emotional, feeling like she had disappointed him with her dinner choice.

She said that the following day, Matt broke up with her. 

‘We were in good moods. And I think it was one of those things where … little arguments open up a can of worms,’ she recalled.

She went on to say that the first two years of their relationship was fun and she wasn’t too worried about a proposal or marriage, but that eventually she wanted more commitment.

“Our third year of dating was when I started to just ask, ‘okay where is this going?'” she said. “He seemed like he was on the same page. It’s confusing to look back on now because when we would talk about things he always seemed like he was on the same page, privately or publicly.”

Rachael said that a few months ago Matt suggested that they look at rings, which felt like a “green flag,” as did their chats about getting married and having kids.

“He said that at the end of the day there were just qualities about me that he worries about having in a wife,” she explained. “Like at the end of the day, there are things that we aren’t compatible with and like, the whole accountability and saying sorry and all that, was really the main thing. It was just one of those things where he, I think, just had this realization that ‘I should want to propose to you by this time. Like at this point in our relationship, I should be wanting those things and I should be ready for that. But I’m not still, I still don’t feel like we’re ready, or I don’t feel like I’m ready. I don’t know if I ever see myself proposing to you. I can’t actually see myself married to you.’ He said that, you know, maybe one day he would get there, but he doesn’t feel ready now.”

Rachael told Matt that after four years together, he should feel ready for the next step. In that moment, Matt came to the realization that he didn’t believe Rachael was the person he was meant to be with.

“He said like, he just didn’t want me to end up resenting him by wasting more of my time if it wouldn’t happen. And yeah, he just said, you know, ‘You’re beautiful, smart and funny, and you’ll find someone, you’ll find a guy that will love you for you.’ But yeah, he just didn’t think that it was him. But it was just really…it was just a lot to hear at once because a few days before, you know, I’m hearing the opposite.”

“A few days before, we’re talking about how he feels lucky to have me as a partner,” she explained. “And that there’s so many qualities that he loves that I have and that we see relationships with other people where they deal with a lot or put up with a lot of things. And he’s like, ‘It’s just so nice that I just feel very lucky that I can call you my partner.’”

According to Rachael, it was just a few hours later that Matt announced their breakup on Instagram while she was on an airplane leaving Japan.

“We’re literally getting ready to take off and my phone blows up. It’s one of my best friends and it says, ‘Rach,’ with a bunch of question marks, and as soon as I saw that, I’m like, ‘Oh my gosh, how does she know,’ and then she texts me again and said, ‘I saw Matt’s post. Is this real life?’ And that’s how I found out that he posted,” she told Cooper. “So then, literally the plane is taking off and I see his post, and that’s it. I don’t have any service or anything for the next 12 hours, so I’m freaking out because, you know, just got broken up with and now, a few hours later, it’s for the whole world to see and I’m still trying to process it. I’m still in total shock, so then knowing like the whole world is seeing this. I’m like, ‘This is so crazy. I can’t even wrap my mind around this right now,’ and I think that’s why I didn’t say anything. Still haven’t made a statement or anything because I’m processing this just like everyone else is.”

“I was so freaked out about the breakup itself. I wasn’t even analyzing the post like everyone else was, so I guess it was kind of funny just to see what people had to say,” she said. “People thought it was weird that it was a Bachelor photo because we definitely tried to remove ourselves from the show. It was interesting to see the caption only because I feel like there was no — I don’t know how to explain it. I guess it almost seemed like saying it like a prayer was the easier way to say it than to say something real. Not that it wasn’t real, but just something authentic to our actual relationship, but it’s very him. I guess it didn’t surprise me that he said it like that. I guess I was just surprised that he said it at all, that he posted that.”

“I never knew if it was because there was something wrong with me or, like, not wrong with me. I keep trying to tell myself that there’s nothing wrong with me.”